On our cruise in December, there were moments where the ship was rocking quite a bit. It was hard to walk in a straight line. But the cruise ship workers were unphased. They stood tall, never affected by the wind and the waves. I asked them, "How do you do it?!? How do you handle all the movement??" They replied, "When the ship dances, we dance with it. Little tiny adjustments and we can keep our balance."
I immediately thought of business. Running a 7-figure business might look "easy" on the outside. For the most part, Chris and I are calm and collected, even if the waves beneath our feet are rolling and the wind is blowing fierce. We've learned to dance with the waves.
It's not that life gets easier. It's just that you get stronger.
Every hard time you face in your life or your business is building up your muscles. You're gaining valuable tools. You're learning to dance with the waves.
Every staff member that leaves, every client that complains, every contract that you lose.... it's teaching you what you need to learn.
Every time you fall on your knees and cry out in prayer for God to come near is a chance to strengthen your faith and make you stronger than you were before.
Life and business will never be perfect.
It's not about perfection at all.
It's about dealing with the hand you've been dealt.
And dancing with the waves.
Registration for our Never Alone Inner Circle Retreat is OPEN!
May 1-2 in Maple Grove, Minnesota
Members attend for $197 and non-members are invited to attend for $297!
This is an event you do not want to miss! Getting away from "normal" life to focus on your business, your goals, and where you are headed is invaluable. Bring a spouse and get reconnected and get on the same page. Leave renewed, refreshed, and with an action plan.
See what Emily says about the event here: https://youtu.be/ttcf_ms8k1Y
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We can't wait to see you in May!
I remember the moment so clearly. I was at the kitchen table and I was asking myself, "What do I really want? What is my end goal for my business? Why do I want to grow this thing?"
Two things popped up: I want to homeschool my kids and I want to travel.
10 years have passed and those dreams have become a reality.
I graduated my oldest this last spring after homeschooling him the whole way through, and he headed off to college. This was the true test-- would he sink or swim? Straight A's in Bible School has let me exhale. It worked. Our free-range, learn-at-your-own pace mentality actually worked. Ethan is thriving in college and loving the challenge.
And we have traveled! We've taken the kids from coast to coast and to the southern seas. We have taken planes and trains and automobiles. We have cruised and we have walked miles at Disney. We have learned so much and we have grown so close as a family.
All of this was possible because I learned three things:
1. How to multiply myself,
2. How to eliminate the things that suck my time,
3. How to be free and disciplined at the same time.
In 2010, I was doing absolutely everything for my business. I prided myself on it. I was the owner. I had to answer every email correspondance, order all the supplies, text all of the teachers, make all of the plans, answer every phone call. That's what you do when you own a business! Right?!
When I was doing all.the.things I had no time to look up and see where we were going. My time was FILLED with administrative tasks that kept the ship afloat, but it was not bringing in much money to our family. I actually would have been better off to just get a job. I worked myself harder than any boss would have even allowed. I couldn't take a vacation. I had no one to do the things that only I knew how to do. It was ridiculous. It was exhausting.
To scale my business, I had to create a new position for myself. I became and manager and overseer of EVERYTHING. I had to create the plan and let other people help me. I had to shut down classes and programs that took all my time to run, but were not profitable. I had to get really good at online marketing.
I had to stop grocery shopping. It wasted too much time. I let Chris go to the store for me and started ordering groceries online.
I had to stop cleaning my own house. I wanted that time back to spend with my kids. Plus, I got to support another small business owner. The sanity from a freshly scrubbed house every week gave me energy to pour into my business and my kids.
I had to turn over my phones and email (gasp!) to extremely competent administrative assistants. Only after I freed myself from the day to day operations could I hire a team, manage the team, and focus on marketing and growth.
Become disciplined and free at the same time
As I scaled my business, I realized I could not be committed to doing things the way I had always done them. I had to loosen the reigns. I had to learn new things. I had to become flexible in my methods so I could grow.
As I grew myself and my faith in my ability to be the leader of my company, then we saw physical growth in our numbers, our revenue, and our income. By clinging to things we had always done, I was unintentionally stunting the growth of my company.
I had to be disciplined in my daily and weekly tasks, doing what needed to get done, no matter how I felt about it, but also free to make new choices and decisions so we could continue to expand.
If you're feeling stuck doing ALL THE THINGS in your business, you're not alone. This is the myth that most business owners fall into. But it doesn't have to be this way.
If you're actually scared to grow your business because you are already drowning with the amount of work that you're doing and the time it's taking from your family, let's talk.
If you are committed to changing your family's future and making this the best decade ever, let's connect.
2020 can be the year that everything changes for you.
Schedule a call and let's map out the future. Let's make a plan so you can grow and expand.
I'm always here, cheering you on.
Chaos always precedes the transformation. The mess is in the middle when you doubt tackling the big project. Wonder if you’ve made a mistake. Wishing you could go back.
The transition is when you doubt everything. When nothing is as it should be and you wonder if it will all turn out okay.
This weekend we decorated for Christmas. Pulled out all of the bins. Took down the fall decorations. Took out the Christmas garland and lights and ornaments and candles. It was a mess.
The boys helped carry the heavy stuff and assemble the 9' tree. The girls decorated and I mostly practiced Lamaze breathing in the corner. Now that they are all older, the kids took over the decorating. I was focused on the mess. Stuff everywhere. Little squabbles here and there about the lights and where the village pieces go.
What have I done?
I should have done this alone.
And-- What will I do when they all graduate?! How will I do this alone?!
We have messed this up. It's too cluttered in here. Why do I take on these massive projects? What was I thinking?! Isn't break supposed to be RELAXING??
All these thoughts raced through my head as I fought back tears. Why am I crying? This should be a happy moment! But it all just felt like chaos.
Which, honestly, feels like my life right now. Everything is a mess. We are changing things around. We are pulling out the new and putting away the old. But everything is everywhere and it can bring on daily panic attacks.
Maybe you’re in the middle of transition right now, too. Maybe you’re changing course and starting to question if it’s a good idea after all. Maybe you’re actually wishing you could go back, even though you had plenty of reasons for wanting to leave.
The beauty is coming. It’s just around the corner. You just have to HOLD ON.
Get through the mess.
Get through the middle.
Keep pressing on.
Chaos always precedes the transformation. Always.
I look around and now my house looks beautiful. It was worth the mess. It was worth pushing through.
And it gives me hope. Hope that 2020 will bring beauty and less chaos and confusion.
It reminds me that I am in the middle. And I have to hang on.
If you're in the messy, middle, too, I encourage you to hang on. Push through. The transformation is coming. Keep going. Don't give up.
It will be worth it all.
I know it will.
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Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas from our family to yours!
The finished result from all of our decorating!
About the Author
I'm Jen Hickle. I love coffee, journaling, reading, and cozy winter evenings. A business owner for 20+ years, I can't imagine having a "real" job or getting up every morning to an alarm clock. I love my freedom and my family and the chance to encourage fellow business owners every day.